Maturity In Conflict

“Admit when you’re wrong. Shut up when you’re right.” 

- Dr. John Gottman 

In other words: You can be right, or you can be in a relationship.

Maintaining a good relationship means keeping your ego in check. This takes a great deal of maturity.
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Proving you’re right is like trying to win a debate. However a relationship is not a debate. There are no winners or losers. If there is a “winner” in the relationship, then both partners lose.
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To “win” in a relationship means compromise and cooperation. This means putting away your urge to prove your point of view is right or superior.
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This also means having the maturity to admit your faults and wrongdoing.
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Practicing Dr. John Gottman’s two methods “Admit when you’re wrong” AND “Shut up when you’re right” will create more stability, respect, and maturity in your relationship.⠀