The Science of Intimacy and Life-Long Attraction
Did you know there’s research, studies, and scientific evidence that can prove certain elements of intimacy and life-long attraction? That’s right, although most things are left to “natural attraction,” there is a science to the life-long attraction. That means that if you put work into it and commit yourself to an intimate relationship with your special someone, then you will have a better chance of making it through the long-run.
In the book The Science of Intimate Relationships by Professor Garth Fletcher, the author highlighted the following things in his studies:
Communication: Unpacking the nature of good communication is the foundation of any relationship. He looks at the value of the honest communication model, suggesting that one expresses their negative feelings or problems will bubble. The good management model posits that regularly expressing negative feelings can have a corrosive effect on the relationship, which is why keeping some of your negativity to yourself is a good move. Studies have found the worst thing you can do is shut down, and keep your angst to yourself. Your partner needs to know.
Understanding Differences regarding sex: t’s important for both sexes to understand the wants and needs of the opposite sex.
Breakups Come from Higher Levels of Dissolution: Breakups ultimately come from low income, unemployment, neurotic tendencies, violence, poor communication, and negative attitudes, according to this study. If you enter into a relationship that already has some of these problems, the fate of your relationship is not doomed; however, it’s going to take work and a lot of transparency. It’s important you acknowledge to the other partner the things that are already wrong when starting out
Childhood and Past Traumas Can Alter Relationships: An overwhelming amount of information has shown that childhood experiences and past trauma can impact present-day relationships. It’s important that partners open up about this trauma in the beginning so the other person is able to be there for them and understand irrational outbursts. Again, it all comes down to transparency and communication.
Empathy and Compassion: Lastly, studies have shown that at the beginning of a relationship, the most important component is feeling like the other person is able to empathize with you and your experiences. If the person feels they have found that in someone else, they are more likely to see them as a life-long mate.
The moral of the story? Communication of your present wants and needs, your past traumas and experiences, and your future hopes and desires is the foundation of any successful relationship. Science has shown that you need to communicate with your partner, even when you don’t want to.
Herewith the Couple Summit, we want to provide a healthy setting in which you and your partner can explore communicative topics on a DIY path.
