Why talking about death Helps you live and love fully

Every one of us deals with death differently. 

But there’s one certain thing — there’s nothing that changes us the most like death.

How it affects us depends entirely on how we perceive it.

In most cases, people aren’t open to talking about death, probably because death is a scary topic to talk about — something that's mysterious, obscure, unpredictable and eerie.

But honestly, having a deep and meaningful conversation about death with our loved ones can be one of the most pivotal moments in our lives. 

As you look at the life and death of a person, you’ll begin to realize how short life is. And how very little time we have to make memories, live our lives to the fullest and make everyone around us happy. 

Being aware of our limited time on earth would mean that we’ll learn to embrace our life and spend it with those who truly matter to us.

If you haven’t yet opened up about your thoughts on death to anyone, then it’s high time you do so. Here are four solid reasons why you need to talk about death and learn to appreciate the life you have.

4 Reasons Why You Need to Talk About Death

1. Gain Clarity on How You Want Your Life to Be

It’s very simple. The more we try to articulate our feelings into words, the better we understand ourselves.

To deal with grief or with the scary concept of death, we must first realize the position we’re in and get in touch with our emotions. Many of us have become experts at stomping on our emotions — because we aren’t ready to face them. But this unhealthy habit could ruin our outlook on life and stop us from making meaningful connections.

Talking out loud about what you’re feeling, what scares you, what saddens you and what keeps you up at night would give you amazing clarity on where you stand. 

The bonus here is that your partner will also get a better perspective of your actions and emotions. And it can strengthen your bonds and help you get in touch with yourself more.

2. Focus on the Big Picture Rather Than Petty Stuff

Many of us are guilty of fussing over the tiniest stuff and taking small issues to heart. Like the time your partner forgets to pack your lunch or comes late for a date or forgets to pick up groceries.

But when we come across a huge tragedy in ourselves, it can show us how petty these stuff are. As we talk about death, we’ll slowly realize how much time we’re wasting on sweating about the small stuff that doesn’t even matter in the big picture of our life.

Like Seneca said, ‘Life is long if you know how to use it,’ we can truly enjoy our life and live every moment of it when we come to terms with how fleeting and short it is.

3. Learn to Appreciate Our Loved Ones

Many of us think about what we don’t have and fail to see what’s right in front of us — our partner who supports us through all our hardships.

Why don’t we appreciate our partners for all they do for us, cherish those moments and make the most of what we have?

Open up to your partners and bare your feelings. Talk about what you feel, how death affects you and how both of you can together deal with it. Appreciate your partner who has stood by you through thick and thin and acknowledge their patience. 

As you slowly open up about your thoughts on death, you’ll come to realize how temporary our lives are and how important it is to spend every waking moment making the best of it.

4. Treasure the Precious Moments

Among the many emotions we feel after someone’s death, one of the predominant feelings is remorse.

We think about the things we could have done when they were alive. We feel guilty about the things we missed. We torment ourselves about the things we ignored. 

As much as we feel bad about not doing enough for those who are no more, we can remedy that by doing our best for our loved ones ‘now.’ 

Instead of regretting our actions, why can’t we start treating our partner and our loved ones the way they deserve?

Life is fleeting and uncertain. All we have is this moment. What we do at this moment is totally up to us.

We can either cry over spilt milk or live the best life we can and take every moment seriously.

Life is finite. You never know how things can change in a short time. So make the most of what you have today, enjoy your precious moments with your partner and treat them the way they deserve.